Wednesday, April 02, 2008

So it's been a while...

I encourage people to check here often but do I post often? Nope. It's not for a lack of wanting though. Just time I think.

Yes Jana, sleeping through. Since March 8, 2008. He went from waking every few hours on the night of March 7 to sleeping through for 10 hours on March 8 and has never looked back. We're basically ready for him to move out of the pack n play in our bedroom and share with his older brother, because he sleeps longer than Caden! But first we have to move Avery out of Caden and Avery's bedroom and into her big girl bedroom with Hello Kitty. All things in due time.

Speaking of "big girl", we went last night to register Avery for preschool. She will be attending Creation Station Christian Preschool starting in September. That is, if she is potty trained by then. I came to the realization on Monday night that I am incredibly upset about Avery not being potty trained. And then it hit me. That's not it at all. You know what it is? It's the reality that yet another one of my children is not meeting milestones on time. Do you have ANY idea how hard it is in our society to have children who are not "super stars"? Children who do things early are apparently exceptionally bright. Children's IQ scores (yes, at FOUR) are touted as predictors of future successes. And then if you have a child who doesn't do things early, you've probably got trouble on your hands. Or at least you're not quite as blessed as others.

Obviously, I am speaking in some jest, but this is the overwhelming idea in society, and little Pella is no exception. It's just difficult. And I realized that THIS is what I am struggling with. Yes, Avery is extremely strong-willed and this not pottying thing is totally her thing, but I'm going to have to back off. I thought maybe I could just force it but it's not going to happen. I'd LOVE for her to be trained, but she wouldn't. So if she can't go to preschool in Sept, she'll owe me the non-refundable deposit back when she's older.

3 comments:

Michelle said...

I can somewhat understand your aggravation with being labeled with 2 kids who are "behind". Andrew didn't walk until 3 days before he turned 18 months old. I got A LOT of looks when I told people how old he was! Of course, he was then running 2 days later...

Jana said...

I knew a girl once who was potty trained at nine months, could read at 2, and was already solving difficult equations in kindergarten. Now, she lives in a cave and eats squirrel.

Just kidding...I don't really know a girl like that. But I agree with you that early milestone achievement isn't a marker of potential future success. In fact, too much emphasis on getting to things super-early and before everyone else just breeds a sense of competitiveness that our society doesn't need.

Christine said...

Don't stress about the potty training! She really isn't behind, and by the time she is in preschool, she will be fine! There is no specific point in time, when a child should be potty trained, you know, like at 2 years old. There is a huge time frame, but, like I said before, most kids are trained by 4.
Some train at 2. My kids are like Ave, and want to be in their mush forever. There is nothing wrong with it!!! My little dude, only trained, because I let him pick out his potty chair on his own, and that was his motivation. Just find somthing that will motivate Ave...I told you before, I already had a potty chair, but, he hated it. So, I had to shell out another 25 bucks, but, it was the best 25 bucks I spent, almost 3 weeks ago...and they are about the same age, so, don't stress out!!! She is not behind!
Some kids walk at 9 months, and some kids walk at 18 months and both are considered normal...(OK, 9 months is early)...You cannot compare kids, at any age, to other kids their age...(((hugs)))